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Autism Relationship Resources: Building Understanding and Connection for the Relationships
Building and maintaining relationships is an important part of life, and for autistic individuals, relationships can come with unique dynamics and opportunities for growth. Whether it’s friendships, family connections, romantic relationships, or professional interactions, understanding and supporting the needs of autistic individuals fosters deeper and more meaningful bonds. This page provides resources, tools, and insights to navigate the complexities of autistic relationships. Whether you’re autistic, a loved one, or someone seeking to learn, these resources are here to support healthier, more inclusive relationships.
Recent Articles
Autism and Empathy: Bridging the Gap in Understanding Neurodivergent Perspectives
We often make assumptions about others’ internal states based on their external behaviors. For example, if I see that you’re shivering, I might make a good guess that you’re cold. I might be correct most of the time, but these assumptions are not always accurate. It’s also possible that someone can be shivering but not cold, or cold but not shivering.
Autistic behaviors are commonly misunderstood because autistic people have social and communication differences. This means that when someone guesses an autistic person's internal state based on what they see externally, they are less likely to guess correctly because the state may differ from what they expect. An autistic person may feel one way but appear differently to another person. One clear example of this is the assumption that some have made that autistic people must lack empathy.
The question “Do autistic people have empathy?” prevails in blog posts and articles online––and the persistence of this question exemplifies the harmful myth that autistic people lack empathy. Autistic people do have empathy––and in fact, many have heightened empathy––even if the expression of this empathy appears differently.
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder marked by social and communication differences and a preference for sameness and repetition. In the past, some researchers pursued the idea that a lack of empathy is a defining feature of the autism spectrum ––but this view has been challenged by other researchers who point out the flaws in these assumptions.
While autistic traits undoubtedly include social and communication differences compared to allistic (non-autistic) people, these differences do not equate autism to a lack of empathy.
Read on to learn more about different types of empathy, factors influencing autistic empathy and more.
Understanding Autism and Relationships: Navigating Love, Family and Friendship
Autism can shape how individuals experience relationships, bringing unique strengths like honesty, loyalty, and focus. However, autism also creates challenges related to interpreting social cues or expressing emotions. These differences can easily lead to misunderstandings.
Autistic people thrive in relationships with clear communication and mutual understanding. For instance, they may prefer direct communication or need time to recharge after sensory overload. When these needs are respected, it fosters trust and support.
What is Identity-First Language, and Why Use It?
Most of us were taught that it is best to use “person-first language” when referring to disabilities. Person-first language intentionally separates a person from the disability, as in saying “person with diabetes” rather than “diabetic person.” This intends to emphasize the individual over their disability, showing that the disability does not define the person. However, not everyone views their disability as something that can, or should, be separated from them.
This is why identity-first language—as in saying “autistic person” rather than “person with autism”—is important to the autistic community. Many autistic people prefer identity-first language because it acknowledges that being autistic is a core part of who they are.
